Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Domestic Bliss: Letting Go of Expectations

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Letting Go of Expectations

I previously wrote about how we can find domestic bliss within ourselves. But, how do we find happiness with those we live with? Many times, we expect our spouses and children to take care of certain things around the home or to act a certain way and when they don't we can get frustrated.

Let Go of Expectations of Others
We can't change the personalities of others. We all do things differently. However, when we work on ourselves and change the way we do things, others may follow suit. For example, putting items in a certain place or loading the dishwasher after dinner. We can't expect others to know what we would like to have done without a bit of communication. Sometimes a lot of communication... if you're like me. My granny was a lecturer and I seemed to have inherited this trait from her.

Have a Chat
Our spouses and children may not know what we would like to change within our home. If they aren't noticing the changes you are making, take the time to sit down and have a conversation to see how you all can work together. You may hear sighs and groans, but once the changes become routine, it will get better. Let them know you would like help clearing the table after dinner or help folding and putting away laundry. If you don't tell them, they won't know, right?

As a wife and mom, I know how we can get in the mindset of trying to take care of everything ourselves and then get burned out. Once we get burned out, the huffing and puffing comes along because we are frustrated by doing the mopping, dusting, sweeping, laundry dishes and most of the other cleaning by ourselves. But... did we ask for help? Did we let our family members know we needed help or did we expect them to just know?

Remember.Change takes time.
It won't happen overnight. Try not to get frustrated after the first couple of attempts. Keep at it and don't give up.

If you're not sure how to approach your husband to ask for his help, read my post about how to ask our husbands for help when we are overwhelmed?

I would love for you to leave a comment with any tips you have on how to ask our family for help.

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